mmaldec: fix problems with flush logic

mmaldec: fix problems with flush logic

Don't try to do a blocking wait for MMAL output if we haven't even sent
a single real packet, but only flush packets. Obviously we can't expect
to get anything back.

Additionally, don't send a flush packet to MMAL in the same case. It
appears the MMAL decoder will sometimes hang in mmal_vc_port_disable()
(called from ffmmal_close_decoder()), waiting for a reply from the GPU
which never arrives. Either MMAL disallows sending flush packets without
preceding real data, or it's a MMAL bug.