avcodec, avformat: deprecate anything related to side data merging

avcodec, avformat: deprecate anything related to side data merging

This patch deprecates anything that has to do with merging/splitting
side data. Automatic side data merging (and splitting), as well as all
API symbols involved in it, are removed completely.

Two FF_API_ defines are dedicated to deprecating API symbols related to
this: FF_API_MERGE_SD_API removes av_packet_split/merge_side_data in
libavcodec, and FF_API_LAVF_KEEPSIDE_FLAG deprecates
AVFMT_FLAG_KEEP_SIDE_DATA in libavformat.

Since it was claimed that changing the default from merging side data to
not doing it is an ABI change, there are two additional FF_API_ defines,
which stop using the side data merging/splitting by default (and remove
any code in avformat/avcodec doing this): FF_API_MERGE_SD in libavcodec,
and FF_API_LAVF_MERGE_SD in libavformat.

It is very much intended that FF_API_MERGE_SD and FF_API_LAVF_MERGE_SD
are quickly defined to 0 in the next ABI bump, while the API symbols are
retained for a longer time for the sake of compatibility.
AVFMT_FLAG_KEEP_SIDE_DATA will (very much intentionally) do nothing for
most of the time it will still be defined. Keep in mind that no code
exists that actually tries to unset this flag for any reason, nor does
such code need to exist. Code setting this flag explicitly will work as
before. Thus it's ok for AVFMT_FLAG_KEEP_SIDE_DATA to do nothing once
side data merging has been removed from libavformat.

In order to avoid that anyone in the future does this incorrectly, here
is a small guide how to update the internal code on bumps:

- next ABI bump (probably soon):
  - define FF_API_LAVF_MERGE_SD to 0, and remove all code covered by it
  - define FF_API_MERGE_SD to 0, and remove all code covered by it
- next API bump (typically two years in the future or so):
  - define FF_API_LAVF_KEEPSIDE_FLAG to 0, and remove all code covered
    by it
  - define FF_API_MERGE_SD_API to 0, and remove all code covered by it

This forces anyone who actually wants packet side data to temporarily
use deprecated API to get it all. If you ask me, this is batshit fucked
up crazy, but it's how we roll. Making AVFMT_FLAG_KEEP_SIDE_DATA to be
set by default was rejected as an ABI change, so I'm going all the way
to get rid of this once and for all.

Reviewed-by: James Almer <jamrial@gmail.com>
Reviewed-by: Rostislav Pehlivanov <atomnuker@gmail.com>
Reviewed-by: Michael Niedermayer <michael@niedermayer.cc>